Saturday, March 30, 2007
    A 'great opportunity'
    Principal's fight with cancer opens his eyes
    By Sarah Koenig
    Enterprise writer
    Most people, when they hear the words "lying in
    bed for days too sick to get up" don't immediately
    think: "great opportunity."
    But that's what things became this fall for Greg
    Gelderman, principal of Heatherwood Middle
    School. Gelderman, 54, who was diagnosed with
    testicular cancer this summer, underwent surgery
    and rounds of chemotherapy that kept him
    bedridden for days. He returned to school only this
    month.
    It all began in July, when a visit to a family doctor
    turned up an unpleasant surprise.
    "It was a 10:40 (a.m.) appointment, by 8 that night
    I was sent to a urologist. I had a testicle removed
    that same day," Gelderman said.
    He and his wife had water-skiing plans that
    weekend. He called her and said he didn't think
    they were going anywhere.
    "I asked (the doctor) what if no surgery and he
    said, 'You die,'" Gelderman said. His wife and
    children walked in the room at that moment, so he
    didn't pursue it further.
    Gelderman endured rounds of chemotherapy
    August through October. He'd go to the hospital
    and stay hooked up to a machine that registered
    chemotherapy drugs for five hours.
    For the first few days, he would read. After that, he became too tired to do anything.
    "In many ways it was a blessing. How many times (are there) in life when you can't move?"
    Gelderman said.
    Gelderman has been a building principal for 23 years, working 55 to 60 hours a week, and was an
    elementary school teacher before then. There hasn't been much time to think, he said.
    Enterprise/CHRIS GOODENOW
    Heatherwood Middle School principal Greg Gelderman has
    returned to full-time status at the school, after working part-time
    while going through chemotherapy to treat his cancer. He
    discusses what he learned during his time off, and his upcoming
    retirement at the end of the school year, Monday, March 26, in his
    office at the school.
    Enterprise/CHRIS GOODENOW
    Heatherwood Middle School principal Greg Gelderman shows a
    port that was inserted in his arm, with a connecting tube that led to
    his heart, which allowed doctors to inject chemotherapy
    treatments directly into it.
    But while sick, he came to several realizations. A book called "Pressure's Off" by Larry Crabb was
    one that got him thinking.
    "(Crabb) said you treat life like: 'If I do A, B happens,' and if B doesn't happen, it's like 'What did I
    mess up?'" Gelderman said.
    When people believe that life is linear, and that they control what happens, that creates pressure to
    always perform, he said.
    "Life doesn't work like that," Gelderman said. "Life isn't fair."
    When his daughters were young, Gelderman repeated the maxim "Life isn't fair" so many times that
    by age three or four he would say, "Life isn't..." and they'd say 'Fair.'"
    But inside, he'd always felt life would be fair for him, he said. Being sick made him ask himself: Why
    should it be fair only for me?
    The realization that the illness wasn't his fault, that bad things happen to good people, was very
    liberating, Gelderman said.
    "Once I realized life is not linear or fair, the pressure was off in terms of whether I was going to be
    cured," he said. "(I felt): My final attitude is not going to be determined by the tests coming back with
    the cancer gone."
    Gelderman also began to rethink his relationship with work.
    Despite 60 hour workweeks as a principal, Gelderman had managed to be there for his family, but
    only by burning the candle at both ends, he said. The job is a high-stress one.
    "What I tell aspiring principals is they have to treat (the job) like a marathon, not a sprint," Gelderman
    said. "I've treated it like a sprint."
    He began asking himself how long he wanted to keep up that pace.
    "I'm not 35, I'm not even 45 anymore," he said. "God whopped me on the side of the head with a two-
    by-four and said, 'You have to stop.'"
    So Gelderman has decided to retire at the end of the school year. He's accepted a part-time job at
    Seattle Pacific University working with the teacher training program there.
    He finished chemotherapy in October, and a three-month follow up showed he's still cancer free.
    Testicular cancer has a 95 percent cure rate.
    Though the cancer has gone, its effects remain.
    "I've told myself if I don't come through this a different person, I've missed the opportunity,"
    Gelderman said. "Hopefully I came through different."

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