Handout B-2
DO:
· Remain calm. A child may retract information or stop talking if he/she senses a strong reaction. · Find a private place to talk without interruptions. · Put the child at ease by sitting near him/her. · Ask permission before touching the child. Touch may be associated with physical or emotional pain in children who have been physically or sexually abused. · Reassure the child that he/she is not in trouble. · Use the child’s vocabulary. · Support the child: “I am sorry that happened to you.” · Do what you can to make certain that the child is safe from further abuse.
DO NOT:
· Press for details. You do not need to prove abuse or neglect.
· Ask “why” questions. These questions require children to explain actions that they may not understand.
· Promise that you will not tell anyone about the child’s disclosure.
· Ask leading or suggestive questions.
· Make angry or critical comments about the alleged perpetrator. The child often knows, loves, or likes this person.
· Disclose information indiscriminately, keeping in mind the child’s right to privacy.
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Make the child feel different or singled out.
· Investigate a case yourself. Call the police or CPS.